Hey there, I know you are dealing with a lot right now — balancing academic excellence while figuring out your future is no small feat. As a clinical psychologist, I’ve seen many students like you. I was in your shoes before starting my career, and I want to offer some advice to help you manage this stress. Plus, I understand that being a young woman in Pakistan comes with its own set of challenges, so let’s talk about that too. 
Time Management
It’s important to set realistic goals for each day to avoid feeling overwhelmed. I know it sounds basic, but breaking tasks down into smaller steps and prioritising them can help you stay on track. Some people benefit from the “5-Minute rule,” which is a productivity technique designed to help you overcome procrastination and get started on tasks that seem daunting or unappealing.
First things first, managing your time effectively can make a world of difference. Have you tried creating a balanced schedule that includes everything from classes and studying to relaxation and social activities? You might feel pressured to excel in every subject, especially given the competitive environment in Pakistan, but remember, it's about progress, not perfection. Tools like planners, apps, or even a simple to-do list can keep you organized. And don’t forget to schedule regular breaks to avoid burnout — your brain needs that downtime!
Healthy Lifestyle
Taking care of your physical health can significantly impact your mental well-being. Are you getting enough sleep, eating well, and staying active? I know it’s tempting to pull all-nighters, but sleep is crucial. Aim for 7-9 hours a night to help your brain function at its best.
Eating a balanced diet and getting some exercise, even if it’s just a walk around campus, can also reduce stress. Sometimes, we overlook these basics, but they are foundational to managing stress effectively.
Focus Inward
Have you ever tried mindfulness or relaxation exercises? Practices like mindfulness meditation, deep breathing, or yoga can really help calm your mind. Even just a few minutes a day can make a big difference. There are apps like Headspace on Netflix and on any app store that offer guided sessions, which can be a great place to start.
In the context of Pakistan, where there can be additional societal pressures and expectations on young women, these techniques can provide a much-needed break from all the external noise and help you focus inward.
Seek Support
It’s so important to reach out for support when you need it. Do you have friends, family, or mentors you can talk to? Sometimes, just sharing your worries can lighten the load. Universities often have counselling services, and it’s a good idea to use them. Don’t be afraid to seek out this help — talking to a counsellor can provide new perspectives and coping strategies. Also, most universities in Pakistan, to my knowledge, have no counsellors on board to help students out; however, you can confide in a loved one with whom you deem fit for sharing your worries.
Joining study groups or student organisations can also help you feel connected and supported. It’s common for young women in Pakistan to face additional family expectations or societal norms, which can add to the stress. Finding a supportive community can make a big difference.
Limit Perfectionism
Perfectionism is a tough one. It’s great to aim high, but remember that perfection is unattainable and often leads to unnecessary stress. Instead, focus on doing your best and learning from any mistakes. Celebrate your small wins along the way. It’s okay to set high standards, but be kind to yourself when things don’t go perfectly.
As a clinical psychologist, I often encounter young women grappling with the immense pressure of parental expectations, especially within the South Asian (desi) community. The drive for perfectionism imposed by well-meaning parents can be overwhelming and affect. 
In many Asian cultures, academic excellence is seen as a pathway to a secure and prosperous future. Parents often view their children’s success as a reflection of their own sacrifices and hard work. While this perspective can add a huge amount of pressure to a child, conversely, remember that you have every right to protect your mental health by setting boundaries. Communicate your limits clearly and consistently by letting your parents know how much time you need for study, relaxation, and other activities. Stay firm but respectful when standing by these boundaries. It may take time for your parents to adjust, but maintaining consistency is crucial.
Career Counselling
Thinking about the future can be daunting. Have you explored your university’s career services? If your university does not offer that, then there are plenty of private career counsellors you can opt for!
Career counsellors can help you understand your options and provide guidance on resumes, interviews, and job searches. This can be particularly useful if you are feeling uncertain about your career path.
In Pakistan, where career options might seem limited or influenced by family expectations, career counselling can offer a broader perspective and help you find a path that aligns with your interests and strengths.
Break Down Long-Term Goals
Long-term goals can feel overwhelming. Try breaking them down into smaller, more manageable steps. Focus on what you can do today to move closer to your goals. For instance, if you want to become a doctor or even a psychologist, focus on maintaining your GPA, gaining relevant experience, and preparing for entrance exams.
Embrace Uncertainty
Uncertainty is a part of life, especially during university years. Try to embrace it rather than fear it. Being adaptable and open to new opportunities can help you navigate these uncertainties. Practicing gratitude can also shift your focus from what’s uncertain to what you appreciate in the present moment. Also, I would highly not recommend comparing yourself with your peers; that would never turn out in your favour in the long run. 
Professional Help
If you find that stress becomes too much to handle, don't hesitate to seek professional help. Therapists can provide tailored strategies to help support you and your family. Just for your information (FYI), this article is not a replacement for therapy. Only to be used as an educational tool. 
Balancing academic demands and planning for the future is tough, but with the right strategies and support, you can manage stress and achieve your goals. Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. By taking care of your mental and physical health, seeking support, and maintaining a balanced perspective, you can navigate this period with resilience and confidence.
Life at university, especially for young women in Pakistan, can be filled with unique pressures, but you have the strength and limited resources to overcome these challenges by giving your best. Don’t hesitate to reach out for help and take proactive steps to care for yourself.
Take care, and remember to be kind to yourself on this journey. You’ve got this!

A trauma informed clinical psychologist, her experience includes over 7 years of dealing with multiple mental disorders, both in Pakistan and the UK.
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