Women across the country are making their mark in the world today because of their hard work and success. Today there is no field that is yet to be conquered by women. We find them leading from the front as managers, scientists, politicians, doctors, engineers, and even in the Armed Forces — a field once considered entirely masculine. Women of today have made this a well established fact that they are leaders. However, there is a role that women play 24/7 and it is often ignored, relegated to the back, and is seldom appreciated — a women’s role as a ‘Mother’.
In Islam, as soon as a woman embraces motherhood, her esteem and status is elevated a million times as her responsibilities increase manifold. It is said that the future of every nation is their children. If you want to destroy a nation, insidiously corrupt its children. Hence, a woman not just bears the hard task of carrying the weight of another human for nine months, but effortlessly pulls the humongous task of raising the individual and inculcating his conscience with the best values, morals, and shapes the young generation to be responsible citizens of the state. A woman in the role of a mother is the steering wheel of the family. Her confidence and belief in the children fill them with confidence and steer their life on the path of success. An educated mother greatly influences the formation of a healthy society, and progressive nation. A woman in the role of a mother practically shows the difference between right and wrong to her children. As Alexandre Dumas said, “Instruction is good for a child, but example is worth more.” An educated and financially independent mother can nurture and bring forth her children better by not just providing them with a better standard of living, but by teaching them other precious life skills as well. When a child watches his/her mother confidently managing her work, chores, and helping her family with their needs, she practically teaches her children the skill of time management and of prioritizing in life.
A woman as a wife is succour to all members of her family, especially her husband. She stands by him through thick and thin, and teaches her children empathy, and compassion. Researches have shown that individuals in touch with their emotions have more clarity of mind and can make better life decisions. A woman who is strong, confident, and educated is able to raise children better, and can effectively influence the society as she practically shows her children how to stand up for themselves and those around in need. Researches have shown that the children of educated women are more well behaved, and have clarity of mind since an early age regarding their aim in life. A woman through her life exemplifies for her children how to live by being self-disciplined, and organized. As they say, “Life doesn’t come with a manual, it comes with a mother.”
A mother, when educated and confident, positively shapes the personality of an individual into a strong one. Children spend most of their time with their mother. She is the first institute for her child. Lessons an individual is imparted with as a child are remembered by them their entire life. Imagine a mother telling her child that lying is bad, rewarding him for telling the truth, and chastising him for doing otherwise. Such an individual would never shy away from speaking his mind. A mother teaching her child to treat everyone with respect would purge him of all kinds of personality complexes. Such an individual never becomes part of wrong and tries his best to stop it.
Women imparting the best values in their children not just help raise better individuals, but also patriotic citizens working for the best interest of their country. When grandmothers and mothers narrate the stories of the glorious past of our ancestors, how they were compassionate, empathetic individuals ready to help the needy, and defend the weak, it fills the children with utmost awe, and leaves a desire to follow the footsteps of their elders. Narrating the events that led us to fight for our homeland, and how our ancestors laid their lives for it help sow the seed of love and patriotism for the country. They take pride in their history, heritage, language, people, and respect the national flag. Children are thus well aware of their history and it teaches them to act as one unit in the face of adversity, and encourages them to contribute to the development of their country.
History is filled with examples of men whose destinies were shaped by sheer influence of their mothers. Thomas Edison’s life is an example of how a mother’s efforts influence the success of her child. Edison as a child faced numerous challenges academically. His teachers and peers believed he could never do well in life. One day, his teachers sent him home with a letter to give to his mother. Seeing the letter, his mother’s eyes welled up with tears. She read out loud: “Your son is a genius. This school is too small for him and doesn’t have enough excellent teachers for training him. Please teach him yourself.” After Edison’s mother passed away, he came across that letter that actually said: “Your son is mentally ill. We won’t let him come to school any more.” Edison cried for hours and later wrote in his diary: “Thomas Alva Edison was an addled child that, by a hero mother, became the genius of the century.”
The founder of Anglo Oriental College and founder of two nation theory, Sir Syed Ahmad Khan was hugely influenced by his mother, Aziz-un-Nisa Begum. She was well-versed in Arabic and Persian. She taught him Quran and gave him basic lessons in Persian. She was rigid when it came to discipline and respect. It is reported that once Syed Ahmad was kicked out of the house by his mother for hitting an old servant, and was only welcomed after he sought forgiveness from the servant. The compassion Sir Syed’s mother inculcated in him as a child helped him establish himself as one of the few Muslim judges across the subcontinent. He owed his love for modern education to the emphasis his mother laid on the acquisition of education.
Abadi Bano Bagum also known as Bi Amma is another amazing woman who left indelible mark in history as a mother. She was a woman who was ahead of her time. She encouraged her daughter-in-law Amjadi Begum to participate actively in politics at a time when leaving home was considered a taboo for women. She was one of the architects of the Khilafat Movement. She addressed the rallies from behind a veil, informing about the atrocities of the British, and persuaded the masses and her sons to be on the right side.
History has examples of many such women who were able to steer the course for their children and society because of their potent influence. In order for a mother to be strong and have an effective parenting style, it is necessary for the mother to be educated. An educated mother is a treasure and an asset for the society. An educated mother helps to eradicate poverty in a society as she is able to contribute to the economy of the country. She provides her family with a better lifestyle. Children are better able to grasp the lessons they learn at school when they see their mother’s personality reflecting them. Researches have proved that children who are raised by educated mothers develop better cognitive skills, which help them to do well in their lives, achieve more, and thus become better citizens. Educated mothers, even if they belong to the less privileged strata, are able to engage their children in quality home schooling. When a woman is educated, she fights the prevalent myths in the society with reason and takes better care of her family. In order to develop a healthy society, we must start educating our girls. An educated mother is the only hope in saving the society and raising a better generation.
Diane Mariechild said: “A woman is a full circle. Within her is the power to create, nurture and transform.” Raising kids as better human beings and responsible citizens is a huge responsibility that only a mother is capable of fulfilling. HH
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